4-14 Legal Update: On wishing failure for someone else

Shortly after I posted yesterday, I got a call from my Victim’s Advocate at the County.  (My VA is amazing and Hennepin County has provided amazing customer service through her throughout this whole process.  So, our tax dollars are going toward something positive.)

Chelsea Haynes, the woman who killed Jason, violated her terms of probation.  She was caught using illegal substances and “in violation of her terms.”  No further details on that second phrase, but my guess is she wasn’t following her house arrest.

For those who need a refresher, when the investigation was complete in August, she was issued a subpoena for October.  Until that court date, she got to live her normal life without any kind of restrictions.  She was taken into custody at that court date, where she remained for a week until her bail hearing.  At her bail hearing, she was released and put on house arrest pending the next hearing which is May 7th.  There is a plea deal on the table, which she has not done anything with.  All of that was before Christmas.

Her release agreement included such very restrictive statements as not being allowed to drive on a suspended license, needing to follow all laws of motor vehicle operation, and not using drugs or drinking.  I was not impressed.  Her bail was set at $100,000, which didn’t really matter because her restrictions weren’t really restrictive.  Except the house arrest part.

This time, they issued a warrant for her arrest.  She will be picked up sometime in the next few days.  So, in violating her terms of release, she has put herself back in jail with a $100,000 bail.  The next hearing is still set for May 7th.  It may or may not happen.  I specifically requested that it not be moved earlier.  It might be moved later.  She’ll be chilling in jail until whenever that hearing happens.

In her failure to follow her terms of release, she has increased her odds of going to jail.  It is easier to send someone to prison who is already in jail than it is to incarcerate someone who has been free.  This is partially because when free, they are proving that they learned/won’t do it again/are a good person/etc each day.  It is also because it is emotionally easier to say, “stay in,” than to say, “go in.”

Here is where things get emotionally complicated.  (Because, they weren’t already?)

I wanted her to fuck this up.  I wanted her to fail.  And I don’t like that.  I don’t want to wish failure on someone else.  I want humans to be the best people we can be.  I want all of us to succeed at being great.  But in this case, I wanted her to fail.  And that sucks.  Because I can’t have it both ways.  I can’t both want her to succeed because she’s human and also want her to fail because she killed my love.

In this specific case, I wanted her to fail so that she goes to jail.  I want her to face consequences for her actions.  I want her to understand that the choice she made led to the death of my love.  And I don’t see her succeeding, which would reduce her jail term, as being an effective teaching tool in this case.  So, I wanted her to fail.

As for the legal stuff, I don’t know much more.  I’ll find out more in the next few weeks, including if that May date moves.  Until then, back to waiting.


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