12-20 Why I hurt: Part 2

Last week I talked about safety and healing.  That is one part of why I think I (and the other widow/ers) complain of increased pain and other physical symptoms.  The other part is the way our brains are processing our grief. Think of it like circuitry.  We have a certain number of circuits for processing…

12-14 Safety, Healing, and Video Game Mechanics

I’ve talked about the widowhood effect before.  This is a phenomena found in widow/ers over the age of 65 (because there aren’t enough of us under 65 to study in a statistically significant manner) in which folks who have lost their partners report greater amounts of pain, are less responsive to pain medication, get sick…

12-5 Health Insurance: An American Tale

It is becoming common knowledge around the world that United States’ health insurance and medical payment system is completely fucked.  Here is my story about how lucky I am, and also how messed up this is. Health Insurance plans are required to continue coverage until the end of the month in which you had a…

10-5 All is Not Doom and Gloom

I got a new job.  It is a career type job.  Like, an actual job with a salary and 40 hours a week and benefits and paid parking.  I have business cards to prove it.  (Please don’t call or email that contact information.  I may have business cards, but I can’t seem to get into…

9-28 Victim’s Impact Statement – Haynes

Ten months ago, I stood before the court a read a statement.  Then, my goal was to use words to reach across the chasm and explain how the actions of Rahim Meekins have impacted me.  I hoped to reach the core of human compassion in him and maybe give him a starting point to become…