6-30 Good News, Bad News

It has been an eventful week. On Tuesday, the Violent Crimes Apprehension Team brought Haynes into custody. Two (nearly three) weeks ago, the Victim’s Advocate called me and told me that they would be actively searching for Haynes.  I was also told not to make that public knowledge, on the off chance that she was…

5-12 Legal update: Part This Fucking Sucks

I have been struggling to find words this time around.  Partly, that is a symptom of depression.  But in this case, my struggle to find words is about this.  It is about how shitty this situation is and how I don’t want to tell people.  There isn’t some silver lining here, it just sucks.  So,…

4-14 Legal Update: On wishing failure for someone else

Shortly after I posted yesterday, I got a call from my Victim’s Advocate at the County.  (My VA is amazing and Hennepin County has provided amazing customer service through her throughout this whole process.  So, our tax dollars are going toward something positive.) Chelsea Haynes, the woman who killed Jason, violated her terms of probation. …

3-11 The Myth of Gentle Grief

This grief is not a gentle thing.  This isn’t a beautiful corpse holding a sprig of flowers in hands crossed lovingly over a chest.  This isn’t grief like eyes closed in sleep. If this grief comes in waves, they aren’t the gentle waves of the tide coming in.  These are the tsunami waves after an…

12-20 Legal Bullshit: This is going to ruin your day

The title is for real.  This is very likely to ruin your day. Haynes has not taken the plea deal.  At this point, the trial is set for May 7th, Despite how simple that sounds, and how quickly that hearing went, there is a whole lot there to unpack.  So, here I go diving into…

12-11 Some legal stuff

Nothing has changed. But let me take a moment to talk about upcoming possibilities and past actions.  Caveat: I’m stepping into the legal weeds.  Or at least legal ankle high grass.  So, sorry for any mistakes and if something isn’t clear ask questions and I’ll go find out the answers. One question I keep getting…