12-20 Why I hurt: Part 2

Last week I talked about safety and healing.  That is one part of why I think I (and the other widow/ers) complain of increased pain and other physical symptoms.  The other part is the way our brains are processing our grief. Think of it like circuitry.  We have a certain number of circuits for processing…

12-14 Safety, Healing, and Video Game Mechanics

I’ve talked about the widowhood effect before.  This is a phenomena found in widow/ers over the age of 65 (because there aren’t enough of us under 65 to study in a statistically significant manner) in which folks who have lost their partners report greater amounts of pain, are less responsive to pain medication, get sick…

12-5 Health Insurance: An American Tale

It is becoming common knowledge around the world that United States’ health insurance and medical payment system is completely fucked.  Here is my story about how lucky I am, and also how messed up this is. Health Insurance plans are required to continue coverage until the end of the month in which you had a…

6-30 Good News, Bad News

It has been an eventful week. On Tuesday, the Violent Crimes Apprehension Team brought Haynes into custody. Two (nearly three) weeks ago, the Victim’s Advocate called me and told me that they would be actively searching for Haynes.  I was also told not to make that public knowledge, on the off chance that she was…

11-29 Less Courts, More Hospitals

I have some good news and some bad news.  The good news is that a) I will not be having shoulder surgery and b) I can train again.  The bad news is that I have a labral tear that will never heal. I have a four week break from attending court, so instead I’m going…

5-16 Injury details

For those who are squeamish, you may not want the rest of these details.  I’m not going to get super graphic, but I am going to spell out what happened to me and Jason and where my body is at now. I have exactly one split-second memory of the accident, so the next few things…